Thursday, July 23, 2009

Book's Cover



I'll ask you to stare at the image above carefully, what can you see? Many of you will say that there's a point or black dot. That will be the very first response we’ll have in our minds. That’s what I answered before when somebody asked me about this. We only see what is obvious. We didn’t give enough attention to what is bigger and more evident in the picture --- and that is the clear and enormous WHITE, surrounding the black dot. Actually, if the black dot was not there, then we will now say, it’s empty or there's nothing in there. Just blank. Sadly, this kind of viewpoint lives among all of us. What we see first are the negatives, we often forget the beauty that lies beneath those. This is true in meeting people, we sometimes prejudge them on how they look, how they dressed, how they walk and others. I would like to present this thought in a video and you be the judge.

Susan Boyle


She's really amazing, isn't she? It's true what they say that you cannot judge a book by its cover. You have to know the person better first before you can say anything that really has sense about that person.

This is sometimes true which is happening right in our own homes. Our spouses will do their best in cleaning the whole house but instead of appreciation and compliment, they'll get criticism, whether the cleaning is not right, they wasted a lot of cleaning agent when they can just use little or there’s still a place in the house that is unclean. We didn't consider the hardship they've gone through, the sacrifices they gave just to clean up, they could be watching their favorite show or do shopping for themselves instead. We should be grateful of what they're doing especially when it's hardly done just to please us.

5 comments:

Phoebe said...

"Our spouses will do their best in cleaning the whole house but instead of appreciation and compliment, they'll get criticism."

I just hope my husband will realize this in time. I keep praying that he'll appreciate all my efforts, instead of demanding and expecting too much. I don't want to give up on him yet, but sometimes I just can't help but wish he's a little more appreciative of what I do than look at me like his top competitor. :(

sunny said...

strongly agree buddy! we need to look beyond the surface! happy blogging!

ezekiel13 said...

hi phoebe, i know he will, just do what you know is right for your family and everything will be okay. Because if you show him goodness, you will surely receive the same thing...

Phoebe said...

hi ezekiel..sorry to bother u again..just have a rough day now.

u said i show him goodness, and i'll receive the same thing..but what if not? is it worth holding on?

sometimes i feel as if, i'm doing everything to help make things easy for him. but in return, what he does is make my burdens heavier for me to carry. again, i ask, is it worth holding on?

just asking..and last, what do you do if u think everything is too much for you to handle already?

ezekiel13 said...

Hi phoebe, i'm sorry to learn that you're in this kind of struggle. But you know what? it's always worth the hardships and sacrifices if you're doing and offering it for your family. If you're goal is for the goodness and unity of your family, you'll find yourself always giving in. I mentioned that you'll receive goodness but I did not say that you should expect it from your spouse. Never expect anything from him, just do whatever you think is right as a wife and mother to your family. If you don't expect, you won't get upset when you didn't get it. God always work His wonders. He knows that you're doing a great job to what He has entrusted you to do. I know He will reward you in ways and time that you don't anticipate. Ignore the negative things, just continue to be appreciative and in time, your spouse will realize all the good things you're doing. If you think, you can't handle it anymore... Lift it all up to the Lord... He does not give us hardships that He knew we cannot handle.. Cheer Up! Life is short, we have to enjoy every minute of it with our family.

Try to communicate with your husband when everything is calm and when he's ready to listen. He might not be interested but your loving voice will still be captured by his ears and his heart. I'll pray for you, don't worry you have a friend in me. Try reading these, they could help you, I posted these when I had a rough time like yours...

http://alcuasay13.blogspot.com/2008/11/9010-principle-of-stephen-covey-anger.html

http://alcuasay13.blogspot.com/2008/10/power-of-tongue.html

Always remember, marriage is a two-way relationship, try to examine yourself as well, you might not be aware of things that made your husband to be in his position right now. Kayong dalawa lang ang magkakampi sa napakalaking mundong ito... I'll pray for your family's happiness. you deserve it.